Letting Her Discover…

Discovery is part of childhood. So as much as I look at the pretty summer schedules people are putting together and think, “I should do that,” I won’t.

Those schedules are tempting, though. Oh, so tempting! I admit that I love the idea of having structure in my day. Preferably for me, my children and my husband. Hey, I’m a Sagittarius with a Capricorn rising. I just can’t help it.

But when I went to my husband and said, “I’m going to sort out a summer schedule for the little one,” he said he didn’t think I should. I asked why not. After all, I’m Gen X and what have we been if not the parental generation known for structuring our children’s time? He answered very simply that we shouldn’t structure her day, that summer should be a time of free play and discovery.

Free Play & Discovery

Oh yes. That thing our generation seems to have forgotten as parents.

When I had my son in 2002, I already had a friendly “mommy guide.” She knew where to bring the kids to get the best pro photos taken, which activities they “should” get involved in, and had the perfect playroom in her house. I’m the imperfect mom who doesn’t think of any of those things. So I tried, but I could just never be like her or the other turbo moms. Even when I homeschooled my son, I couldn’t follow everyone else perfectly. Our curriculum was a mish-mash of what worked for him.

So with my daughter, I’m learning to be fine with that imperfection, not buying her everything, or taking her everywhere. Discovery comes naturally to her if I just step back and let her explore her world. Our backyard has plenty to offer – wildlife, wide open spaces to explore, and more.

While I’m not keeping up with the other moms, I see that my daughter is learning and growing without any extras in her life. A big backyard provides endless opportunities for her to discover.

Last week we went to the beach. It was as unstructured as it can be. Heck, I even forgot some essentials. Oops! But as we left for home, she asked if we would go back again. I told her we’d spend our summer like we’re in a Country Time lemonade commercial.

Life My Way

Who doesn’t want to live their life, their way? “Living the dream.” I see this phrase too often and, to be honest, it annoys me. What is “the dream”? Is it meant facetiously? “The dream” sounds too authoritarian, as if there is only one kind of dream. I reject that notion and call on everyone

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Ladies: For some reason, 53% of white women who voted, voted for Trump. If you are a woman who voted for Trump, I do not understand your choice. I cannot understand why you excused his reprehensible misogynist behavior and attitude toward women, his racism and hatred of minorities, his mocking of those with disabilities, and

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New Year’s 2017

New Year’s 2017 is here and I’m looking back at how I went from fabulous England to the Midwestern prairies four years ago. 2013: I had a baby and my husband’s enlistment in the military ended. With no interest in re-enlisting, we moved from England back to the United States with an infant, no clue

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The bliss of being unconnected

Yes, unconnected. That’s what we are at the moment. Intentionally. I don’t own a smartphone and if I ever do, I will never set it up to receive Facebook notifications. I will┬áturn it on when I leave the house and turn it off when I return. The phone number will be given out as an

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Raspberries are a favorite in this house. I’m not a big raspberry eater, but my husband and daughter love them. If I bring home a container from the store, at least half of them are gone within moments… and the other half usually get thrown out a day later because they go soft overnight. So

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Ode to Butternut Squash

Butternut squash has a special place in my heart, both due to nostalgia and practical reasons. When we first moved into our new home, we were on a limited budget and between jobs. So here we were with a house we outright owned, but not quite sure how we would pay the other bills. Of

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Autumn Musings

There is no doubt it is autumn now. Warm days, cool nights; garden spiders among the tomatoes; box elder bugs huddling together, seeking warmth. The tomatoes and Brussels sprouts are flourishing. Broccoli and squash are winding down. We’ll transplant the peppers soon and keep them growing indoors throughout the winter. Of course, this is where

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